7 myths about introverts
The most important part of a modern person's life is communication. The degree of professional, social and personal realization depends on the ability to communicate. The most attractive is a completely definite behavioral type - extraversion. A recognized example of this type of behavior is a person who is open, sociable, friendly and slightly naive. They are called "guy-shirt", they have a "wide open soul".
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However, we are all different, and not everyone can correspond to the “ideal”. Some of us do not find it necessary to constantly express our thoughts out loud and express our emotions on others. They are more comfortable in their inner worlds, and they leave there only when necessary. They are introverts.
Public institutions (school, university, etc.) and the media seek to convince people of the benefits of extroversion, and therefore introverts are often perceived as unusual, strange. There are many misconceptions regarding the peculiarities of their behavior, the most common of which are presented below.
Introvert is taciturn and shy
An introvert focuses on his own perception of the outside world, rather than how the world evaluates his behavior. If the topic of the conversation affects the range of his immediate interests, the introvert can reveal itself as a completely talkative and sociable person.
The apparent shyness of an introvert is not associated with a fear of any interpersonal contacts, but with the fear that he and his interests will be incomprehensible or indifferent to a particular interlocutor. In fact, this is not a tightness as such, but a desire to contact exclusively with those with whom there are certain points of intersection.
If the introvert does not participate in the general conversation, he either does not intend to discuss the topic at all, or has already expressed all the available considerations.
The introvert is rude and indifferent
The introvert does not adapt to the interlocutor and does not communicate for reasons of decency. A person he does not like runs the risk of stumbling upon a complete reluctance to contact and even irritation. It doesn't follow that an introvert can't be polite. He understands that, demonstratively getting rid of an uninteresting or unpleasant interlocutor, he does not act as is customary in society, but prefers the “wrong” act to unwanted communication.
An introvert always wants to be alone
Rather, the introvert loves to be alone and doesn't feel uncomfortable about it. He finds it difficult to get along with others and pick up friends meticulously, avoiding casual contacts. But with loved ones, the introvert is sensitive, helpful and sincere. He has the ability to listen and delve into the inner experiences of another person, although there are few people around him.
An introvert can't relax
An introvert does not know how to relax the way extroverts do. He is not interested in corporate parties, dangerous adventures and noisy public places. People who are prone to introversion feel great in nature, alone with their dreams and plans. They do not need company to relax, but to have fun - the fun of others.
The crowd makes the introvert fearful
The sensations that an introvert gets around a large crowd has nothing to do with a phobia. This is a kind of discomfort that leads to rapid fatigue. However, an introvert is able to be a public person or at least not shy away from communicating with the public: examples include US President Abraham Lincoln, businessman Bill Gates, director Alfred Hitchcock, actors Clint Eastwood and Harrison Ford, actresses Gwyneth Paltrow, Michelle Pfeiffer and Grace Kelly.
Usually, an introvert participates in social events without problems if their topic is in line with his professional or personal interests.
Introvert is prone to eccentricities
An introvert is always more interested in his own thoughts and experiences than the people and events around him. It may seem a strange situation when a person behaves completely withdrawn, completely disconnected from social life. However, this is rarely the case. Usually, introverts like quiet music, comfortable, dull clothes, discreet, functional household items. They prefer an environment that does not attract special attention and provides a sense of inner comfort. It's more of an individual taste than a fad.
An introvert can become an extrovert if desired
It's impossible. The tendency to introversion is an innate personality trait, and an introvert cannot change internally. However, living in an extrovert-oriented society, many introverts eventually begin to behave in a way that is not too different from the majority.
An introvert is not prone to violent conflicts and a showdown. Therefore, he usually manages to restrain himself and not throw out his emotions on unpleasant interlocutors, but politely, but firmly limit communication. An introvert who “pretends” to be an extrovert appears to be just a little more self-absorbed and a little less talkative than others.
Introversion is not a pathology, but simply one of the behaviors. Scientists believe that in every person there are some parts of introversion and extraversion, and the specific style of behavior is determined by their ratio and external circumstances. If you come across a pronounced introvert, do not try to force him to behave "like everyone else." This will create an uncomfortable situation that will not benefit anyone.
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Maria Kulkes Medical journalist About the author
Education: First Moscow State Medical University named after I. M. Sechenov, specialty "General Medicine".
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